Nurturing your emotional health is essential to your happiness and partner when in a relationship. If you’re struggling to stay emotionally healthy when in love, don’t worry – you’re not alone.
It can be challenging for many of us. Loving your partner while creating a fulfilling relationship can cause you to lose focus on your personal life. It’s not that you aren’t living life. Yet you may allow your personal needs to slip away by making sure your partner is happy.
Yes, your relationship with your partner is a priority. However, your role as a healthy individual plays a BIG part in the overall health of your relationship. By nourishing your heart and soul, you keep the connection thriving with your partner.
The best way to have a healthy relationship is to fulfill your own personal goals and aspirations.
You may think this sounds a bit selfish, but it’s not by any means. Keeping yourself happy through self-care and self-love techniques gives you the ability to connect with yourself. When you love yourself, you are willing to love your partner as an equal.
Putting your emotional health at the top of your to-do list, prevents you from losing a sense of self or identity.
If you are emotionally-reliant on your partner, it creates something known as enmeshment. This is where boundaries are non-existent. When this occurs, you begin to pause your personal self-development by not giving yourself the things you need to radiate and grow.
Therefore, setting boundaries shows respect for you and your relationship and will be an essential component to your happiness. When you love someone, you have to continue nurturing your own self-love first.
Here’s how to take care of your emotional health.
7 Secrets to Maintaining Your Emotional Health When In a Relationship:
1) Establish a Balance of Independence and Interdependence
Both of these are equally imperative to living an intimate and fulfilling life while committed to your partner. Keeping your independence means doing activities for yourself to reach your personal goals. This doesn’t mean stepping outside of your relationship.
Maybe it’s grabbing dinner with your friends once a week, or attending a social event for your career. Whatever it is that you crave, continue pursuing it wholeheartedly. If you tend to neglect your emotional health, your relationship will suffer, too.
Cultivating your independence helps increase your own self-worth and personal development.
When your personal needs are met based on your values, then you are more likely to honor your partner in a healthy manner. The two of you become mutually reliant upon each other with unconditional love and support achieving interdependence.
However, avoid misconstruing this with codependence; as interdependence forms from two healthy partners who maintain their personal wellness outside of the relationship.
2) Find a Hobby
What makes you happy? Is there something you are passionate about? If you are unsure, be adventurous and explore different activities in your local neighborhood or city.
- Join a yoga studio or running group, if you love exercise.
- Go horseback riding or volunteer at an animal shelter, if you love animals.
- Sign-up up for a photography or cooking class, if you love being creative.
- Learn a new language or play a musical instrument, if you love challenging your mind.
Whatever makes you happy, commit to doing an activity once a week for yourself outside of your relationship. This will fuel your connection with yourself tremendously, giving you a place of inner peace and happiness within your lifestyle.
3) Travel and Explore
Traveling alone or with friends is a great way for you to step away from the daily grind and reflect on your personal journey. When you step outside of your bubble, you begin to see things you may have overlooked before. Whether it’s planning an international vacation, or taking a spontaneous road trip, enjoy the freedom to be you.
It’s easy to take the simple things in life for granted. You truly can learn to appreciate your emotional health, the people around you, and most importantly your relationship with your partner. Traveling gives you clarity to see the things you are grateful for in life.
To explore, you are seeking what makes you groove and move in life.
4) Time for Friends and Family.
Quality time with people who support your personal endeavors is extremely important. These people played a big role in your life before committing to your partner. So they still deserve some one-on-one time with you.
Dedicate time slots with those you love and care about the most when you get into a relationship, whether weekly or monthly. They are the ones who are there to listen or pick you back up when you’re struggling during tough times.
Giving time to your support system is truly valuable to your emotional health, as they are willing to provide honest advice. Schedule tea time, take a fitness class together, grab a good meal, or Skype with each other.
Make the time – don’t just find the time – with friends and family.
5) Begin Journaling
This technique helps you grow tremendously when you practice it on a daily basis. Being able to process your emotions gives you leverage to let go of your troubles, make healthier decisions, and find your core values. Think of this simple concept as a complex problem solver.
Writing 10 minutes a day is all it takes, whether it’s during your morning coffee or nightly routine.
Every now and then, go back and read some of your journal entries. You’ll be surprised to find personal growth, healthy decisions you have made, and development in your own life. Being able to create an intimate relationship with yourself through writing gives you the ability to care for your own needs.
This personal outlet is a great tool for anyone who is learning to love themselves.
6) Manage Your Emotions
Life can take you up and down in your personal life. Therefore, managing your emotions will allow you to easily navigate when things don’t always go your way.
You may lose your job or receive news a family member is sick; however, make sure you don’t displace the pain onto your partner when looking for support. Finding resilience will help you get back up again, while embracing life’s changes. The more you understand yourself, the healthier you will feel.
You can only learn from your setbacks, and see them as opportunities to grow.
When you are upset, take a timeout for yourself. Let your partner know you need time to think and process your feelings. By informing your partner you need alone time, you aren’t neglecting your relationship. This helps you and your partner stay connected and work as a team.
7) Communicate Your Values
Expressing your values will keep you and your relationship healthy. If you value intimacy, honesty, or trustworthiness in your relationship, you will need to express when these needs are NOT being met. You can identify your relationship values based on the things you need for a fulfilling relationship with yourself and partner.
The best way to communicate your needs is to operate from a place of values.
And if you feel uncomfortable talking about your feelings, write a letter. Any form of communication that allows you to calmly express your emotions will give you a place to release and let go of stressful situations. Remember: refrain from blaming your partner as they are there to support you along your personal journey.
When applying these seven secrets in your personal life, it will help you maintain a healthy relationship with yourself and your partner. Sometimes, you get off the beaten path when you fall in love. However, doing something each day to nurture your emotional health and happiness can help bring you back.
Jillian and Jan
Jillian and Jan Yuhas are Dating and Relationship Lifestylists who empower men and women to connect by mastering their charisma, confidence, and communication skills to achieve a fulfilling relationship. You can follow their dating dossier, or contact them at Entwined Lifestyle.