Winter is coming. Will you fall for his trap?
Cuffing season is here. As soon as temperatures become brisk, men begin looking for a woman who they can cuff during the blistering months while they avoid going out. The season begins in October and goes till March.
Suitors would rather be cuffed than have to go out to single and mingle amongst the small crowds. The thought of cuddling up on the couch on the weekends as the snow falls or showing you off to friends and family over the holidays seems to be more ideal. Leaving their place for a cold brew seems uninviting when they can text you, “Come over, baby” to get warm and bring on the heat.
As the sunshine slowly fades and the day gets shorter, singles can become desperate for companionship. They find themselves lonely by avoiding outdoor adventures and laying down their tracks inside their humble abode.
Here Are 7 Signs He’s Using You During Cuffing Season:
1.Showing Urgency to See You
A non-cuffer is someone who will take their time to get to know you without rushing the process. And let’s be honest, most guys will talk with you a week or two on an app before officially asking you out. They will proceed slow and steady to learn about you before deciding if they truly want to ask you out. On the other hand, a cuffer will force the urgency to see you multiple times without really getting to know you. They are the king of love bombing. Only focusing on meeting their needs regardless if you are the best match for them. It might seem great in the beginning because of how attentive they are, but this will soon fade as they are wanting to cuff you and keep stringing you along.
2.Making Plans For The Holidays
A cuffer wants to avoid the single questions from Aunt Betty and Uncle Joe when they attend family gatherings. They will begin locking you down before the holidays come to make sure when the time comes they have a date they can show off to their family and friends. They see you as a prized trophy which satisfies their needs without regard to your feelings on special occasions. Meeting the family might be seen as something special to you, but to them, it’s just another day.
3.Lacking Transparency and Emotionally Unavailable
He keeps the conversation between the two of you on the surface for the most part. He tells you personal stories every now and then, but he’s not looking to build an attachment with you. He prefers to things to stay light-hearted and entertaining so he can’t get hurt. This cuffer will be sure to disappear from time to time when it’s convenient for him as he doesn’t need to give you the play by play of his day.
4.Wanting To Stay In And Cuddle
What’s date night? He will prefer to keep things low key at his place or yours. He’s not looking to invest his time and hard-earned money on taking you to dinner or traveling to a beach after the first winter storm sweeps through the city. He will refrain from expressing his romantic side as he’s just looking to keep it simple for his basic needs of hooking up.
5.Avoiding Being Single If All His Friends/Co-Workers Are Partnered Up
If he’s the only one without a partner amongst his friends, he will go on a single hunt every day until he meets his girlfriend goals. He definitely doesn’t want to be the oddball when everyone is chatting about their significant other and showing them off at their holiday work parties. Having a date by his side that he is not into is better than none at all. So if he brings up the DTR talk real quick after meeting, you’ll know what he’s up to.
6.Leaving Personal Items At Your Abode
Finding his toothbrush and hoodie in the bathroom after your third date? This is because he is trying to stay in and cuddle hard all night long. The thought of having to go to his place to grab stuff is an inconvenience in his schedule. He wants things to be easy and accessible without having to think about anything important.
7.Confessing His Love For You Way Too Soon
Relationships take time to develop while sharing quality time and meaningful interactions. If he’s telling you he’s in love with you before you know what his favorite meal is or what his relationship is like with his parents, then its too good to be true. A non-cuffer will not confess his love without courting you for a solid twelve weeks, and sometimes longer. If he’s telling you how you make him feel and saying, “I love you” he’s only looking to keep you on his hook for the winter. It’s almost impossible to build a healthy foundation for long-lasting love in a small amount of time, such as a few weeks.
If you find yourself in a situationship that doesn’t seem to be going anywhere emotionally, you may want to leave before it gets too sticky. The longer you stay the harder it will be to leave if he’s not meeting your relationship values today. Cuffing can seem fun and easy, but emotionally hurtful in the end. So don’t waste your own time even if you desire to have someone by your side when the leaves start fall and hibernation begins to set in.
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Jan & Jillian